Monday, December 24, 2007

The Third Moment of Christmas


Fifteen degrees, and I'm freezing my fingers off as I try to get a shot of the moon. Despite the layers of wool, cotton and leather on my upper body, the chill seeps into me. I'm not sure why the wise men knew to follow the star that they did...but when you know, you know.

I saw it when I left the candlelight service. Seven hundred people holding bits of flaming wick seemed to be the "aha" moment of Christmas Eve, but stepping outside, glancing up into His sky, I was reminded that there is more.

Even without presents, even with the symbolism of candles, He reminds me that there is more to this holiday than what we contrive.

A belt of cloud obscures the moon, but a glow radiates from behind it. Jet trails crisscross the sky, and Mars beams nearby. Vapor...wisp...mist...light...a burgundy hue from particles in the air...

Follow the light. What message does He have for you?

Planeguage

I haven't flown for a few years...and this set of videos makes me smile about that.

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Scott Southworth

A WOW story of one who felt compelled...and followed through.

Aha!

Sled Zeppelin, for all to enjoy!

Saturday, December 22, 2007

A Diamond's Journey

Thought-provoking, and much like what I saw in Blood Diamond.

Friday, December 21, 2007

The Second Moment of Christmas

His Highness helped deliver Meals on Wheels to local elderly and shut-ins a couple of years ago. He told about one apartment in which the lady called for him to come on in.

"Just set it on the table here," came a voice from the couch. She was facing away from him, but as he approached, he saw bare feet...bare ankles...bare calves...bare knees...

"I didn't wanna see any more!" he confided later. "I just wanted to get out of there!" He dropped the food and ran out the door.

I pictured that scene as I caroled at nursing homes with my out-of-town friends. Most residents had gone to bed by the time we arrived, but one elderly man's door was open just a crack. I saw that he was sitting on his bed, and I prayed he wasn't in the midst of disrobing. That being the case, I wasn't sure if I should smile at him or not.

He didn't do much wiggling or squirming during the first song, so I figured he was safely in a semi-permanent state of dress. I began glancing up from my music and met his eyes with a smile. When the song ended, he opened his door and shook his cane at us--a twinkle in his eye. "Bah humbug!" he cried gruffly, and those who hadn't seen his eyes stepped back a bit.

He then joined us in our serenade until the group marched on down the hallway. And something kept me back.

Ever have those moments in which you know you have to do something, and you'll regret it if you lose the moment? I'm not fond of germs or public displays of affection toward strangers, and nursing homes are rife with such things. I didn't even know what I was going to do as I moved in toward him--but my arm knew it needed to curve itself around his stooped shoulders and back, and his arm slid around me.

I don't know if I whispered "Merry Christmas" or "Thank you," but he reciprocated, and we meant the same thing: Thank you for sharing this love.

The First Moment of Christmas

Two prominent constants in nursing homes seem to be birds and the smell of urine. When the time comes for visits to cease, there is sadness along with a twinge of relief.

I’d gone to my students’ Christmas concert and helped with both the adult and children’s musicals at church. I’d visited my parents’ church for the carol concert accompanied by a stringed quartet. At the Tuesday night Bible study, we’d looked up carols online and sung along with them since musical instruments were scarce that night. Despite the ambiance provided by the glow of a laptop’s monitor, even that didn’t do it for me.

Holidays are getting smaller. My cousins have married and had children, and my aunts and uncle are often with them. After three years in a nursing home, Grandma died a year and a half ago; Grandpa went in ’98. Mom’s side of the family ranges along the entire East Coast, so it’s just Mom, Dad and I. Instead of getting big presents for each other this year, we’ll be going through the World Hope and World Vision catalogues on Christmas morning. We don’t need anything, and we tend to buy what we want on our own. How much better to spend time together and think about the families we’ll be blessing with a goat or a few chickens?

So it’s been a good Christmas season thus far, and will continue to be. It’s just different.

Maybe I was reaching out for something when I joined my out-of-town friends to go caroling at nursing homes last Wednesday. We trouped through the halls with a bunch of high schoolers. Since they weren’t my responsibility, I spent my time being amused by the high schoolers—the boys who wanted to ditch out and play pool when we passed a table in Nursing Home Number One, and the boys who tried to walk through a one-person doorway together in Nursing Home Number Two. There was also the tall, mouthy one whose expressions and attitude kept a grin on my face most of the time. People like that are good to take along on such expeditions; even if you can’t sing, you have a stinking good time.

Most of the party had moved down the hall at Nursing Home One when a man in a wheelchair rolled himself to his door and beckoned us. Those of us at the end of the trail clustered into his room and overheard him say, “Listen, Mother; these people have come to sing to us!”

She lay in bed with attentive eyes as we began our humble version of “Away in a Manger.” I smiled across the room at her and saw my grandma in her stillness.

I love Thee, Lord Jesus,
look down from the sky
And stay by my cradle
till morning is nigh.

I pictured the miniature wooden cradle I’d made for Grandma on her second-to-last Christmas.

Be near me, Lord Jesus
I ask Thee to stay
Close by me forever
and love me, I pray!
Bless all the dear children
in Thy tender care
And take us to heaven
to Live with Thee there.

Take us to Heaven to live with Thee there… Tears came as I hoped that people had sung to my grandma. Crowded into that small room in winter coats and gloves, it was a holy moment…giving those words to a woman experiencing one of her last Christmases.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

My mother is a chronic migraine-sufferer and recently went in for a sleep study. When the diagnosis was sleep apnea, she was assigned a breathing machine. (Not breathing apparently has a multitude of side effects.)

Tonight's her first night with it.

It was almost seven years ago that my friend Eric died. He had some respiratory problems, was put on a breathing machine, and one day soon after his blood pressure went screwy. He passed out and never woke up. He was 27.

So you can see the connection in my mind. Breathing machine = person dies soon.

Kinda having a hard time going to sleep, illogical though it is.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Caution

And now, from the files of "Are You Serious": http://www.mlaw.org/wwl/photos.html

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

An Evening Out

I am a self-confessed germophobe. Not quite an Adriana Monk, but if someone were to follow me around and offer me wipes, I wouldn't refuse. Even my students are trained. If one sneezes vehemently, they'll look to see if I notice. If I don't catch the offending one quickly enough, the others will chorus, "Antibacterialize!" and point him toward the sanitizer.

Tonight's Bible study had a missions focus. It was down to five guys and me, and we went to a group home to play games with the residents. I didn't have to touch anything the whole way in, and even found a safe-looking chair from which to hang my jacket. Nothing had to touch anything...

I made it about an hour that way. The guys were busy playing Uno with the resident females, and the resident females were glowing from their attention. I wandered a bit and said hi to the two wheelchair-bound young men. They weren't verbal, but their eyes acknowledged that I was speaking, at least. I wished I had more to say; I honestly wish I'd had a puppy to set on Purple's lap--to have some sort of stimulus other than the plain dining room walls.

Pam showed up, and she's big and scary. She towered over me and reminded me of an elderly lady who threatened me in a nursing home about a year ago. Seriously. But she sat down at the table, and when her helper moved away, I slid in to aid in picking which Uno cards to play. And I still didn't have to touch anything.

Attention switched to dual games of Sorry. I was offered a seat, but I've worked at a camp for mentally and physically disabled people. I've changed adult diapers before. Having picked up my germophobia since then, it's really hard to reconcile the two--prior knowledge and microscopic foes. I stood.

And then it happened. The nicest of the workers stopped beside me and asked if I could pick up the stuffed Rudolph on the floor.

Uh.

"No, I'm scared to touch things" didn't seem the right response. I held my breath, reached into the small space between Deb's wheelchair and one of the guys, and plucked up Rudolph by the ear.

"Thanks!" the worker smiled as she headed off with Rudolph.

I, however, was soiled. Then I consoled myself--it was only my left hand that had touched something that had been on the floor that had been traversed by people whose personal cleanliness is not the highest priority in the world. And it was only two fingers, at that. I could isolate them for the remainder of our time...

One of the games of Sorry was really quite competitive--at least, for three of the players. The fourth kept getting booted back to his starting position, and I smiled at the two residents when they were the ones who sent him there. Deb smiled back at me with a grin that was missing all her middle teeth. And then, the next incident occurred: she went to high five me.

One finger, two finger...whole hand? my brain calculated quickly. Oh no! I'd watched her lick her fingers before drawing a card. ARRRRGH!

But what...do you do...?

In my non-athletic way, I highfived her back.

When Deb rolled off to attend to her pre-bedtime duties and one of the guys suggested I fill in for her, I had nothing to lose. I picked up my cards, moved my pieces around the board, and was two slots shy of having them all in safely when Deb returned. She drew the card, it was a "2," and she slid in for the win. The guys cheered for her, as did her housemate, and Deb did a victory dance from her chair. I stood behind her and smiled. The evening was a little victory for me, too.

"Marilyn," in a pink Chicago cap and a yellow bandana, with breasts that quite possibly rested on her lap, had marched her little pieces around the Sorry board in silence. As the guys and I stood to go, Marilyn puttered into and out of the kitchen. Pausing beside me, she whispered with grace and hospitality, "Come again!"

Oh, honeys, thanks for the love!

Monday, December 10, 2007

"God Guided Me and Protected Me"

How cruddy to have to shoot someone in church...but oh, thank God she did!

"There was chaos," Assam said, as parishioners ran away.

"I saw him coming through the doors" and took cover, Assam said. "I came out of cover and identified myself and engaged him and took him down."

"God was with me," Assam said. "I didn't think for a minute to run away."

Assam said she believes God gave her the strength to confront Murray, keeping her calm and focused even though he appeared to be twice her size and was more heavily armed.

Murray was carrying two handguns, an assault rifle and over 1,000 rounds of ammunition, said Sgt. Jeff Johnson of the Colorado Springs Police Department.

"It seemed like it was me, the gunman and God," she said.

Assam worked as a police officer in downtown Minneapolis during the 1990s and is licensed to carry a weapon. She attends one of the morning services and then volunteers as a guard during another service.

Boyd said Assam was the one who suggested the church beef up its security Sunday following the Arvada shooting, which it did. The pastor credited the security plan and the extra security for preventing further bloodshed.

Boyd said Assam's actions saved the lives of 50 to 100 people.

Assam said she was ending three days of fasting on Sunday when fate put her in the path of the gunman.

"I was praying to God that he direct me" in what to do in life, Assam said. "Through the week, God made me strong."

Boyd said Assam's actions saved the lives of 50 to 100 people.

Assam said she was ending three days of fasting on Sunday when fate put her in the path of the gunman.

"I was praying to God that he direct me" in what to do in life, Assam said. "Through the week, God made me strong."


--The Denver Channel.com

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Jingle Bells

We've spent the past week accomodating and chaperoning Christmas concert rehearsals; two nights ago was "the big night." Fifty 6th graders were lined up according to height, gender, and section, waiting for their turn to go on stage. A coworker and I were assigned the task of keeping them quiet enough to not disturb the audience, and it was an arduous half hour.

At last, the music teacher returned for the urchins and we hustled them out the door. There in the hallway, shifting awkwardly and big-eyed, was N.

"N, where were you?" his classmates asked. "Why aren't you dressed up?"

Not knowing where he belonged, I urged N into line after the last boy and figured he could merge as necessary.

Why aren't you dressed up...?

N traipsed along in a dingy athletic T-shirt. His slumped shoulders and shuffling feet contrasted immensely with the steps of his shiny-shoed classmates.

But he's here, I thought. You guys don't get it...

Last week, one of my coworkers mentioned more about N's background--the abuse that led him and his younger siblings to a foster family in our area. "He got it pretty bad," my coworker said sadly.

No mom, no dad to come to his concert, to sit awkwardly on bleachers with coats and mittens and restless younger children. No "Good job, Honey!" afterward...no "What are you wearing to your concert?" beforehand.

Just N, a 6th grader on his own, who showed up to do his part--to play his assigned instrument during one of the featured songs...to play the jingle bells.

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Bad Apple

Our middle and high school students attended an assembly today by a group that, basically, teaches people to be nice. Mike, the presenter, mentioned the Omaha mall shooter who felt like a loser and took average people with him as he went down. Mike said he didn't condone the shooter's actions, but he saw where the motivation could come from.

At one point in his presentation, Mike told us of a trip he chaperoned. He was near a group of high school boys at the back of a bus on its way to Florida when he heard one, an apparent idiot, say, "When we get there, we should go find some fags to beat up!" Mike wasn't surprised by that sort of thing from that student. What he was surprised, and disappointed, about was the fact that the other teens laughed. Kids who should have known better, been kinder.

Mike got up, went to the boys, and told them, "My brother's gay. He lives in Florida. You want his phone number? You want to go beat him up?" And he returned to his seat.

One by one, the teenagers went to Mike and apologized.

*I don't usually go around quoting Adolph Hitler,* Mike told us, but he had a line that fit the situation: “What luck for the rulers that men do not think.”

Not surprised by the idiot, but disappointed in the others...who didn't stand up for what they really thought. OH it bit into me!

On a daily basis, I interact with someone who can best be described with three words--two adjectives and a noun. "Hypocritical" and "gossipping" are the adjectives, and the noun, I won't say. Today's instance of agitation came after probing questions that were none of her business and shredding those who, ironically, gossip and speak poorly of others. Trying to tactfully explain something the Bad Apple was digging into, I mentioned an immigrant family I've done some interpreting for and translated notes-home for. The Bad Apple asked if the parents were going to learn English, and I pointed out that aside from the three elementary schoolers, the mother has two younger daughters at home.

"Five kids? Are you going to send home a note about birth control?"

The disgust on her face; the hard look in her eyes; sitting in judgment of all.

And all I could say was, "I don't think I know those words," in a flippant tone.

So the next time we meet, I will not fail. I will go up to the six-fingered man and say, "Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die." --The Princess Bride

So the next time she spouts off, I will not fail. I will turn to the Bad Apple and say, "It's too bad you missed that assembly!"

"I was there," she'll protest.

A pause.

A pointed, "Oh."

And if that doesn't work, I may ask her if she's planning to beat up some fags.

Monday, December 03, 2007

Number One...er...Number Three reason to get married: Wedding Ring Deflects Bullet, Saves Owner's Life.

Number Four reason to stay married: Divorce Is Bad for the Environment.

Sunday, December 02, 2007

It's a Good Day to Write a Christmas Letter...

I'm getting my masters in education, with an emphasis on technology. It's a leadership track of some sort. Ironic, considering my last class date is this coming Tuesday...and everything is due that night...and, well, in the next 48 hours, I need to
  • find 50 websites to link to my page...and make sure they're related to education.
  • create a 10-site scavenger hunt for teachers.
  • develop and teach a 10-15 day unit...
  • write a six-page report on observations I did during the semester
  • write four 2-page reports on professional journal articles.

Crap.

A Taxing Write-Off

M is beautiful and intelligent and thought of me as a close friend before I realized it. I didn't see the connection until I was needed...and maybe it was those situations that brought us down. I don't remember dates accurately enough, but here's the synopsis of the past year and a half:

While her boyfriend (loved by adults and children alike) was out of town, she met another guy.

She broke up with her boyfriend and started dating the other guy.

They broke up a few months later, and he had sex with someone else. This probably isn't as huge for most people, but in my Christian circles, we take premarital abstinence rather seriously. And the "break" was a month or less.

They got back together.

A few months later, she called me in tears. They were on another break. She told me that he had confronted her about something she and I had talked about. How did he know we had talked about it? She had asked him, that, too, and he said I must have told someone else, who told him. Who told him that, I asked? M said he couldn't tell her. Wrong answer. I hadn't told a soul. Then she told me that a few of her new emails had been read before she had gotten to them. Does he know your password? Yes. She also mentioned that he had pushed her down on the couch during an argument. He what? Get out; stay out; move along. He treats you this way during the sucking up stage? What comes when he's no longer trying to impress you?

They got back together. I told her my concerns. She told me she only tells me the bad things about him, because she wants someone to sympathize with her. Honey, there were enough bad things for you to get out. She told me she wasn't perfect; she had antagonized him. Oh, well, then, it's okay for him to be a jerk as long as you were a jerk, too. That makes excellent grounds for a relationship...

We had some technical difficulties at church one Sunday morning, and I mentioned them to M in passing. She said that her boyfriend works with computers for a living; maybe he could help. Sure; I ushered him in and ran off on another assignment. When I returned, he was standing back and watching others fiddle with the equipment. With time to breathe, I asked M for an update since she was observing. She said that the others seemed to be handling things well, so the boyfriend probably wasn't needed. We started catching up on life things, and the boyfriend stalked off. Mid-conversation, I asked if she needed to go. She shrugged apologetically, we said goodbye, and she ran to catch her ride home. I watched them in the hallway; he didn't turn to acknowledge her when she caught up to him.

When she told me she was getting married, she asked me to be in her wedding. She said she knew I'd had reservations; how was I feeling about things? I told her I was still cautious, but supported her as my friend. We went wedding dress shopping with her future sisters-in-law and her mother.

From the moment I first shook hands with the guy, he seemed cold. He's nice looking, but not at all attractive--because of the lack of warmth. There was no appreciation of me as his girlfriend's (at the time) friend; merely someone he had no interest or investment in.

A couple of months ago, my mom came to church with me. I saw M, she saw Mom, and was excited to introduce her to her fiancee. (M had met Mom before she met me.) When I next saw them, Mom was walking down the hallway with M. Later, Mom told me she had told M of her concerns about the relationship.

M called that evening, but I didn't get her message to call back until 10:30. The next day was a holiday; I could do it then.

The next morning, I got another message. "If you feel the way your mom does, then I'll just relieve you of the obligation of having to be in my wedding. I wouldn't want you to have to support me in something you don't believe in."

Huh.

Nothing had changed since the day she asked me to be in her wedding and I voiced my reservations about the guy. My mom probably said similar things to her that Sunday...and somehow, that was too much?

I mentioned the message to Mom, and she said she'd call M. She did, and got voicemail. She asked M to call her, but M never did.

I'm not sure if the ball was back in my court yet. M made a decision about me based on something Mom said, then didn't respond to Mom...so...?

The day before M's wedding, I texted her. "I miss you! I didn't get a chance to respond after your first message, then didn't know what to say after the second one. Still don't. But know that you're missed!" No response.

The wedding went off the next day with, unfortunately, a hitch.

Today was the first day I saw her in church since then. I saw enough of her to recognize that she wasn't looking at me, so I kept my eyes and face blank and kept moving. I still wonder if that was juvenile of me, but when someone says goodbye, your response options are limited.

Goodbye, M. I hope he's not as much of a jerk as you told me he was.

Sunday, November 11, 2007







It took a little bit of driving to find open water on Friday, but when I did, it was worth it. Once in the lake, I hacked away at ice that had formed in a cove...decided I didn't want to be in one of those icebreaker ships...was keenly aware that the plastic of my yak is nowhere near as strong as the steel of the Titanic, so perhaps I am not invincible after all.

And the sunset...was gorgeous.






Burned

What's the right way to respond when people stand you up? When I realized it was happening, I was indignant at first. Then I tried to justify it. Then I blamed myself. Then I realized how entirely idiotic that was, and put the responsibility back on them. Still doesn't answer my question.

I'm glad I was busy when the courtesy phone call came in and went to voice mail.

"Hey, I just wanted to let you know we're not going to make it, so don't wait up for us."

If I had answered, my response would have been something like, "Oh, that's okay..." Because that's what you're supposed to say, right? You're not supposed to be selfish. You're not supposed to say that you'd adjusted your plans to accomodate your friends and that you were actually excited about the opportunity to spend time together. You're not supposed to tell them that you'd gotten accustomed to people forgetting about you, but were slowly working your way out of that negative psyche. You're not supposed to make them unhappy about their change of evening's plans.

But it still hurts. And you still have that little niggling thought of "See? People do forget about you" going through your head. And somehow, it stings you when the atheist friend you waited with learns that people from your Bible study stood you up.

When I realized the irony of that last thought, "Christians aren't perfect" popped into my head. I'd recently told that to a friend who was struggling with being let down by Christians. Huh.

Huh.

It seems silly to forgive people for bailing on you; they didn't lie or commit a malicious act. But I suppose you just forgive them for hurting you. And I think you have to have enough self esteem to realize that your being hurt is a worthy offense--an offense big enough for someone to need forgiveness for.

Today is the International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church. This morning, our pastor talked with a Cambodian pastor via Skype during our services. The Cambodian man told of when Buddhist monks set fire to the house the Christians have their services in. Instead of pressing charges, the Christians forgave the monks. People who heard of it were amazed by the lack of revenge-seeking. They began going to that church, and many were saved--all because a group of people chose God's way over man's way.

Note to self: however you've been burned, forgiveness heals.

Friday, November 02, 2007

Speaking of Crappy Jobs...

World Toilet Organization--seriously, there is one.

And, even more seriously, India's caste system and "untouchables" still in existence. Wow. I thought this was in my history book.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

I'd Like to Take This Opportunity...

I'm not a fan of Halloween. I love the dressing up, but I dislike the evil behind the day.

Tomorrow, kids are encouraged to dress up as their favorite movie or book character. I think of it as an opportune time to wear my glow-in-the-dark skeletal long-sleeved T-shirt. (I haven't figured out a character to correspond it to yet...but I figure pretty much anyone would work. Eve was the first woman with a skeletal structure...)

I've gone back and forth with the concept. If I wear something skeletal on Halloween, does it look like I'm condoning the holiday? And then I wonder, Why should the "day" have so much power?

Why did I buy the skeleton T-shirt? I like seeing how things work. And, while glowing 2-D bones aren't the real thing, they make me think about what goes on inside me. How amazing is all that stuff? Heart pumping, nerves tingling, tendons connecting, muscles moving, brain telling, bones supporting... How amazing is the God who makes it work?

So I'm "taking back the night." I'll wear my skeleton T-shirt and praise the God Who makes the real bones. I'll see the Trick-or-Treaters and smile because I know my Savior has defeated the real monsters and goblins. And the princesses will remind me of who I am--a princess, the daughter of the King.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

McClinic

It's my guess that sinus drugs and flu shots don't mix well. I was on one when I had the other done last Wednesday, and I haven't been the same since. Just this annoying dizzy feeling that makes me feel uncoordinated and rather like the Headless Horsewoman.

So, sucking it up, I made an appointment with the on-call physician and went in.

The bad grammar and eau de nicotine were probably my first clues that this woman had skimmed her textbooks. Bedside Manners 101 was apparently a class yet to be taken, as I was snidely told that antibiotics did nothing for viruses. If I wanted, I could have a CT scan done, but that would be a waste of my money in her opinion. (Then why was it mentioned?)

I said I had felt somewhat similar to this a few years ago, when I was told I was dehydrated.

"Why do you think you're dehydrated?" she demanded.

Maybe because I feel similar to how I did a few years ago...when I was told I was dehydrated...?

"Have you been throwing up? Had diarrhea? Had a temperature?"

No, no, and I don't know. I've felt warmer than my cold-blooded self lately...

"Do you think you're dehydrated?"

I don't know. You're the doctor!

"We can send you to the ER to get fluids if you want, but we're not gonna do it here at 10 minutes to five."

It felt a little like a McDonald's drive-through... I'd like a CT scan, with a side bag of IV fluids....

What do I want? I'd like you to read my chart and listen to me carefully. I'd like you to be kind. I'd like to be able to relax and let you be the doctor. That's what you went to school for...maybe...

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Regional Humor

Iowa SUX

Saturday, October 20, 2007

"This whole country's at war. Why should I help just one person?" --Maddy Bowen

Do you ever find your toes twitching and your fingers curling up on themselves--searching for something to do...something to do with this feeling that's making your heart beat faster and your world seem smaller?

I watched Blood Diamond with friends tonight and cringed through most of it. It wasn't a cowering sort of cringing but a nails-digging-into-my-palms sort of thing. Or a twist-the-remote-until-it-breaks-in-half sort of thing...but what good would that do?

What do you do with a problem that's a country wide and a continent away?
"This whole country's at war. Why should I help just one person?"
--Maddy Bowen

Because if you help one, that's one. And if I help one, that's two. And if he helps one, that's three...

Sponsor a kid. Go to a reputable place. I've met Jo Anne Lyon from World Hope International. Highness listened to her present at one of his ministerial training classes this fall. Seems solid. $360 to support a child for a full year.

$360 = a lot.

$1 / day = I'm selfishly enmeshed in myself if I can't pass on my wealth to another.

Just one.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007



Thanks, Lloyd Christmas!

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Sophea

When I was a girl, I dreamed of growing up, marrying a wonderful man, and
raising a family...
Abused by her stepmother, Sophea ran away to a Cambodian city. A woman met her on the street and told her she could employ Sophea at her home. Sophea followed...and was put to work in a brothel.

Two years later, at age fourteen, the girl convinced her "employer" to let her return to her family. Finding them, she found she was despised by them. She went to a field and waited for men. Having "earned" enough money for food and a bus ticket, she returned to the city.

A man there told her he could help her. He sold her to another brothel.

"How," my mind wondered. "How could she trust again? How could she trust an agency that may come to to help; how could she trust a man?"

I am now 24, and I am dying of AIDS. My greatest fear is that no one will come to my burial.
Half a world away, she had my needs, my wants. There are no guarantees.



World Hope International's page on human trafficking: http://www.worldhope.org/trafficking/faastdebut.htm

US State Department's 2006 report on human trafficking: http://www.state.gov/g/tip/rls/tiprpt/2006/

Saturday, October 13, 2007

His Highness will be preaching this Sunday and, as part of the Worship Planning Team, I headed to church yesterday evening to help with visual aids. A heavyset, unkempt woman had just beaten me there. Highness sent me a text asking for a ten minute delay.

When he gave the all-clear, I went back to his office and was greeted by a shaking head. "I feel so bad..." he kept saying. "I thought she wanted some sort of couseling, and I don't have time for that... I've got to get through my sermon five or six times tonight..."

He gave me an overview--that she had needed financial assistance, and three other churches had turned her down.

"That made me feel even worse," he moaned. "I started thinking, 'Why are you doing this to me today, God?'"

And I couldn't help but laugh at him.

"What's your sermon topic...?"

He grimaced. "AIDS, human trafficking, and...poverty..."

I laughed more...but it stung, me, too. I'd gotten to church all gung-ho about the visual aids project, then got delayed for more than ten minutes. Why was this lady infringing on my time? I was on a mission to put up signage relating stats of how many people in our world don't have electricity, how many don't have clean water, how many live on $2 a day...

Walking through the darkened halls of church a while after that, I thought more as I hung my signs.
  • 1.3 billion people live on less than one dollar a day.
  • 1.8 billion people have access to a water source within about a ½ mile of home. They consume around 5½ gallons per day. The highest average water use in the world is in the U.S., at almost 160 gallons per day.
I don't have a concept of how much 1.3 billion is...but I understand a dollar. I don't get 1.8 billion...but I know I'm not likely to use 160 gallons of anything if I have to carry it each day.

I got home, turned on the tap, and splashed my fingers through it as I waited for them to register the concept of "cold." My hand suddenly shot forward with my glass; a few seconds later, I turned the water off.
  • About 1.6 million children under the age of five die each year from diseases such as cholera and typhoid, which are caused by dirty drinking water.
It wasn't cold, but it wasn't killing me.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

I'm not a fan of distance driving in rural areas at night. One reason: roadkill, which I'd rather not cause or be discovered as. Before the sun began to set prematurely, I found myself getting involved in a Bible study 45 miles from home. Now, even before the Daylight Savings change hits, I head off into the sunset--meaning a black, black drive home.

On tonight's journey, I wondered about road conditions come the onset of winter. I detest icy highways even more than I distrust dark ones, though I do have all-wheel-drive and am really curious about how my side cushion air bags work. Then I was reminded of the full moon a week or so ago--how the countryside really was bathed in light, and how it was a pleasant drive home. The week before that, I had the setting sun on my right and the approaching moon reflecting off the ponds on my left as I drove toward study. Again, the moon accompanied me home.

But I've taken science classes. I get that whole "full moon, partial moon, no moon" thing. It's silly to think I'd have light for each night of my travels...

I said goodbye, stepped into tonight's cold, and began my drive home. Not far outside the city limits, I noticed a glow in the direction of my town. Couldn't be. So far away? But none of the in-between hamlets were big enough... For the next forty miles I watched the lit sky, until I was in my driveway and looked up at the cover of clouds above me.

Sun's light reflecting off the moon some nights or manmade light bouncing off the clouds another week; either way, He provides.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Amazing Grace

I've noticed I have a really low tolerance for whining this year. That low tolerance makes me...whiny... So here goes, on my new track to being less whiny about my intolerances:

I met with some parents for 25 minutes after school today. Their child is in my remedial reading class but doesn't want to be there because he doesn't like to read. Despite his smiles and lively face in my classroom, he goes home and reportedly tells his parents things that I wouldn't want to hear. I try not to take this personally. I make every effort to find material that is interesting and/or life-relevant. After all, if I'm bored, how could I get reluctant readers interested in reading?

The parents make a suggestion about how I could incorporate regular classroom material into my curriculum. Having much flexibility, I tell them I'll talk with the regular reading teacher about this. I tell them this a few times in a "problem solved; thank you for coming!" tone of voice, but still they sit across the table.

At our last meeting together, they shook their heads and said they don't know what to do with their son. They read his assignments to him because, again, he "doesn't like to read." I asked them what will happen when he begins high school next fall, and they looked at me with big eyes.

After singing the praises of their child's untapped intelligence today, I brought up the shirt he wore on the first day of school: "Genius by birth, slacker by choice." I couldn't look at them after I said that, for fear that accusations would burn forth from my eyes. My parents would never have let me wear such a demoralizing shirt to school.

I am aghast at how many parents of middle schoolers shrug their shoulders and say, "We just don't know what to do with him!" I was a pain-in-the-butt teenager who scrubbed the toilet with her mother's toothbrush (told her three months later) and threw table knives down the hallway at her mother a few years after that. (None hit; get over it...) My parents most certainly did not dismiss my misbehaviors as, "Oh, that's just how she is!" There were consequences--physical, emotional, and mental. I learned that certain things are not acceptable. I'm still learning that there are better ways to do things. (I see the irony in learning later in life that procrastination is not the best M.O.) But if my parents had ignored that crappy teenage attitude?

So on to the non-whiny part. I was thinking, as I drove home, that hopefully, my electronic comments are not viewed as negative for the most part. I hope people read the optimism that really is inside me. I have this perverse drive to temper it with "reality" too frequently, but I'm working on that. So--how to apply that to this situation? I thought of these parents and how they're representative of so many parents in today's American society. What's the "good" spin on that? All I came up with is that it'll be amazing if I can show grace to them.

Going forth tomorrow, planning to be gracious--under the power of the One Who is most gracious to me... And that is amazing.

Saturday, October 06, 2007

Respect the Wall

Temperature in the 80's, it was a beautiful South Dakota day with wind strong enough to move a grown man. After "helping" M and E smooth sand and arrange concrete blocks to support their coming hot tub, I lay on the fantastic grass and just existed in the sunshine while they went to E's truck to pick up another block.

Then there was movement at the edge of the work area--a midsized beetle anxiously attempting to climb the hard plastic wall that separated the grass from the newly-laid sand. I watched, amused. What would she find when she made it across? A barren wasteland, nothing like the grass she imagined.

I pictured her life in three minutes when the boys returned with the block. Smack, settle, grind--bug in gravel, end of journey.

She was still throwing herself at the black plastic when I looked back at her. Then she changed tactics and ran along the edge of it, hoping for a break in the wall.

Why? You don't know what awaits you on the other side...

Oh, the irony... How many walls do I hurl myself against or race along the side of? Maybe the grass is greener on my side.

Friday, September 28, 2007

Little W

On Friday mornings, my regularly-scheduled students are elsewhere. This affords me a bit too much free time, so I help out in one of the kindergarten classrooms. Two weeks ago was my first time there this year.

While the little people worked on their assignment, I walked around the room and helped the regular teacher check the students' progress. One got a particularly pleased look on his face when I praised his work.

"'W' gets a star on his chart when he does what he's been asked to," the teacher said in a meaningful tone and with a distinct look.

A star? Shouldn't they...all be doing what they're supposed to? I looked at him again and noted the hair that would be matted if it weren't so short, the semi-blank expression on his face, and the pierced ear (on a kindergarten boy). And I wanted to cry. Kindergarten, and it's likely this kid will struggle throughout his entire school career. He's lacking social graces and a bit of common sense, which will likely make him the object of scorn of his peers and an object of frustration for his teachers. He'll shut down and be belligerent.

I just wanted to take him in and give him the one-on-one that will help him grow to be healthier.

We didn't have school last Friday, so today was my second day with the kindergarteners. The class was gathered around their teacher and went over the letters they'd learned up to this point. ("U" was today's letter.) When they were dismissed to return to their seats, "W" changed direction and made a beeline for me. He buried his head in my chest and wrapped his arms around my legs.

"I remember you!" he cried with delight.

"I remember you, too, child," I thought with the same amount of delight. To be loved...

God, thank You for this "in" with this child. Please help me make a difference in his life. And if it's not me, please provide someone else to nurture him. Oh, God...

Monday, September 24, 2007

Sunday, September 23, 2007

Take Me

One thing I loved about the land on the Rosebud Reservation was, well, how it didn't get in the way of the sky. It didn't sustain many trees. It was too dry to farm, so no cities have cropped up anywhere near there. It just _was_, and the sky was free to exist beyond it.

I often imagined myself standing in the middle of the grasses, with my arms spread wide. Me. The sky. The wind. God. And I'd yell in my heart, "Take me, God!"

And...He did, in a way. It was one of those "one with Him" sorts of things.

I thought of that tonight and instinctively drew my arms in toward my chest.

Why? What has changed? When did the Norwegian woman in the kitchen of the Lutheran church basement take over my psyche?

I'm not thinking of any non-wussy female role models, but there had to be an intelligent, strong Viking chick in there somewhere. I've been her before. I plan to bring her back.

So this is who I am. Short. Intelligent. Quirkily humorous. Obsessively analytical. Grappling with the difference between what I know and what I do. Caring. Selective. Looking forward to a few more lunchtimes spent on the treadmill at work.

Face to mirror: Take me as I am.

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Surprises Peeking out from Buck Teeth and Glasses

I've taught "low" kids before. I've taught reservation kids who were victims of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I've taught kids whose IQs were too low to qualify for Special Education services. But this kid--he seems to have nothing.

When I get an unintelligible call in the morning, I automatically know it's him as he calls to say he's with the Special Ed teacher and will miss homeroom. I tell him it's okay and I thank him for the call. I hope he doesn't say more, because I'm likely to miss the meanings to his mumblings over the phone.

This morning, he got squirrely during our reading class. He began poking his neighbor, distracting him and me as another student was reading. At that point, I noticed his story was laid out upside down--again--and he could probably go through the whole page without noticing, himself.

Then the fire (drill) alarm went off. The six of us left our classroom and headed down the hall toward exterior doors. Blocking our smooth exit were 20-some kindergarteners with one teacher who tried to be at the front, middle, and end of their disintegrating line. All that went through my mind was, "How do I get the kids that I'm responsible for out of this building quickly?"

"Buck" was lagging behind as I made it through one set of double doors. I turned to urge him out...and noticed his hand on the door and tiny kindergarteners exiting beneath his arm.

Of all the people... My five higher-abled students had attained the "goal" of being outside. "Buck" found a different goal.

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Sunday, September 09, 2007

Note to Self

This morning was another of those disappointing, disillusioned, disenfranchised, disengaged times. Really not so happy. So after church, I drove, vented to God, cried, drove, vented, cried...

My fingers wanted to surf the radio stations, but I couldn't bring myself to lift my hand for it. The station playing was one of the locally-accessible Christian ones, and inside my spirit, I knew I needed it.

As I drove (and cried...and drove...and cried...not a good combination, really...), I appreciated that the station was playing songs that dealt with loneliness and crying out to God. I wasn't in a praising mood, but the reaching bit fit very well.

One farm I passed had a small herd of sheep trotting about in its pasture. On the other side of a fence was a lone donkey, and my heart went out to it. "I feel your pain, man," I thought.

A donkey? I'm a Christian, and I identify more with a donkey than with sheep?

Last week, a friend gave me directions for a shortcut from her town to mine. "You turn at the corner where there's a white house, and there are horses and cows next to it."

A white house? Horses and cows? I laughed at her for saying something akin to, "Turn at the corner with the stop sign--the one with white letters and a white border around it."

Through this morning's tears, the cattle and horses I saw were no surprise--but the numbers of sheep were. What _are_ You trying to say? I wondered.

The songs on the radio changed to ones reminding me of Who He is. One song I hadn't heard before proclaimed that He made all things glorious, and He made me--so what does that mean? Just kind of puts you in the palm of His hand.

I got the lesson, I laughed as I neared town. We all like sheep have gone astray... You are the Good Shepherd... And then I saw another donkey. (Really--I didn't think we had donkeys around here.) Two miles from town, and this was to be my last bit of symbolism? Oh, please, God, show me more sheep!

And a quarter mile down the highway, I saw little bits of dirty wool trotting around--waiting to be fed by their master.

Moral of the entry: Don't be an ass; follow the Shepherd.

Upside Down House (a little like the Cosmos in the Hills)

Saturday, September 01, 2007

"They bring out the bull to get everybody's attention. But it's really about God."

A) Loved the statement.
B) Is this "peddling the Gospel," or is it reaching people where they are?
C) What's my bull?

The Things You Don't Expect


A persistent friend told me I should definitely go to LifeLight this year. But I don't like crowds...or traffic congestion...or the masses... Knowing I needed to release myself from the small town for at least an evening, I took the drive anyway.

M found me near the gate, and we chatted as we walked along. He has much energy. He scares me sometimes. However, he's someone I'd follow almost anywhere--he'll challenge you to your limits, but he watches for when to back off.

Closer...closer to the front we went...but parallel to the masses encased in orange plastic fencing.

"See that tent?" he pointed. My eyes went to the edge of the stage. "That's where we're going." He handed me a security tag with "ALL ACCESS" printed across it.

I didn't say much that was intelligible as we waved our tags at the security guards who manned the backstage gate. He prodded me up the steps and we stopped at the top. There, in their early 80's style gym shorts and glory, were Jars of Clay.




I spent the first ten minutes on stage texting friends who were in the audience and elsewhere. It occurred to me that I wasn't watching Jars as much as I was watching my phone, so I calmed down and put it away. And I sat there and relished it, perched atop equipment boxes with M. The music was loud, the wind blew my hair, and it was just perfect.

Heading home a couple hours later, I was still rejoicing. I wanted to call everyone I know. "Guess what! I was on stage with Jars of Clay!" I didn't, but it got me thinking.

My urges toward proclamations had nothing to do with me--just with who I know. M worked with LifeLight people, which had perks--an extra access tag being one of them. The tag allowed me past security, and there I was.

Who you know...huh... Heaven isn't anything I'm going to get into on my own. No way I can make it past security. But it's Who I know, and the work He's done, that gives me "ALL ACCESS" to life everlasting. He hands me the tag of His blood, I take it, and there I am.

I wonder if my enthusiasm is skewed about some things. Okay, I don't wonder--I've been hit with it. Why am I not as excited about being rescued from eternal damnation (a little bit like being stuck in a crowd of 70,000 people) as I am about being on a platform with a bunch of guys who jump around and make music?

Maybe not cognizant enough of my own sin? I know I'm a peon at LifeLight. Nobody would let me in without that pass. But that's not even the gate of the Almighty...

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Now, That's the Kind of Leader I Want...

John Edwards says we should get rid of our SUVs, but it's okay for him to keep his 28,000 square foot mansion because "he came from nothing, worked hard all his life, has always supported workers and fought big corporations as a lawyer."

So if you work hard, it's permissible to be lax on fuel efficiency.

Sunday, August 26, 2007

Learning to Love


Baby D was born Monday night, and my friends got to take him home Wednesday. He is tiny and wonderful and fits just perfectly...and could be a cause for worry if thoughts are allowed to flow that way. His birth parents were quite content without children and subsequently selected my friends from the adoption agency's list.


But now that he's here, there's that window...that horrible "what if" that makes me want to hold him tighter...and makes my arms feel limp simultaneously.


How do you love someone who may not stay in your life? How do you keep time with the Now, and not with the Next?

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Back the Logic Truck Up...

You, uh, have committed a crime which has landed you in jail. Odds are that in committing that crime, you also violated one or more of the doctrines your faith holds dear. And now you're...what? Saying that the penal system is disallowing you to practice tenets of your faith by denying you religiously-approved meals?

Sure, let's do all we can to appease you, because, you know, you have rights...

Sunday, August 19, 2007

35W

Temperatures in the upper 50's, rain and drizzle--it seemed appropriate for a visit to the bridge. I found that my morning stopover at a friend's in the northern suburbs could lead to the U of M campus on my way to a reunion with relatives in St. Paul yesterday. It's one of those things. You don't announce that you're going there; you just quietly study a map, drive, get lost, find a road you remember from the map, and take it. You find yourself at a road that's closed, and while waiting at a light, look over to your right. A bridge. The bridge? Bridge-builders don't use that sort of angle. That's got to be the one.

You wonder if you can stop somewhere to look from afar. You try to take the first right turn and note the sign saying the road is closed to thru traffic. Fine. You won't go through. You'll just go a little way in. But the road is blocked at the street, with enough space to park two cars, but not enough to get in at all. You try to merge back onto the now-busy street, but cars whiz along. Suddenly, you notice they're stopping and your light is turning green. So much for being inconspicuous in your idiotic, gawking attempt--you are the only car that triggered the light.

You whiz away, embarrassed, but still have the clarity to note a parking lot on your right. You turn in and follow the lot as it winds behind a building. A stone wall, with no buildings on the other side. Could it be the river over there? You park, conscious of all the windows behind you, and wondering if some helpful person will call the police about another trespasser who's being insensitive to Minnesota's tragedy.

A quick hop out of the car and snap of the flash. No bridge in sight, but then, it's fallen, hasn't it?

Your parking lot is connected to that of the next building, which is a little farther to your west--where you tried to go a few moments earlier. You follow it, find yourself atop a hill, and park. Crime scene tape is to your left. This is close enough; you'll get out and walk.

All of a sudden, you notice another car approaching yours. You're trespassing, and you are, essentially, a tourist. You should not be here. You get back in your car and fiddle with your phone--only a temporary stop, officer--I wasn't going anywhere...

Two men get out and position themselves under a tree near your car. No one else is around. They don't seem threatening...but you don't know them. You don't know anyone near here. Then a young lady exits, and you feel a bit better. More "tourists."

Suddenly, a man's face is at your window. With your multipurpose tool in your right pocket and your cell phone in your left, you open the door.

"Excuse me, but I am wondering--is it okay if we park here? I saw you pull up and thought you would know."

An earnest smile and a delightful Indian accent. You laugh, tell him you're probably illegal, but should be okay if you go quickly.

You walk down the hill, and they each introduce themselves and shake hands with you. Small talk and introductions until you see concrete at angles that look like broken legs on X-rays. A train car that looks like the last man standing at a demolition derby.

You stop as you notice a dark car facing you just opposite the crime scene tape. It seems alive, waiting. Finger to your lips, you realize this is as close as you need to get, anyway.

The Indian family doesn't catch on, and they continue their pace until they're touching the tape.

"Do not come any closer!" comes a sudden voice on a bullhorn. "Step back from the scene!" He sounds tense. You're torn between wanting to help these people with communication and cultural barriers, and wanting the law enforcement officer to know that if they do anything wrong, you're not with them... Thankfully, you're saved, because they step back a few feet and join you.

There's not much to see, but you're there. You picture the chaos from the news reports; you filter out the drizzle and insert the people. You wonder about the ones who missed supper that night...and every other night. You wonder about those who loved them.

And you also remember the stories of the good parts--the paralyzed man stuck in his van. Instead of fleeing, others were going vehicle to vehicle and telling others to get out and get off the bridge. This particular man yelled, "I can't! I can't walk!" Another man jerked open his door, slung the man over his shoulder, and carried him to safety. This is the Midwest. This is why I love my people.

The Indian family is ready to go; sweatshirt hood up, you accompany them through the rain.

So, um, hmm.

  • I liked the first one because of its harmless action sequences, clear and bright lighting, and banter between alpha and beta males.
  • I did not like the first one because of idiotic choices for characters--manhandling a document that they had previously intended to treat with the reverence of the Holy Grail, pausing to admire the Declaration of Independence in a public area with their pursuers rather close to their location, etc.
  • Now comes Two. And I'll have to buy it, because this one was partially filmed in my home state. It looks like the no-longer-a-surprise rock reaching scene was filmed at Sylvan Lake, where I worked during part of one summer. (I counseled at a couple of youth camps during college, then had enough money left to either do laundry or buy gas to get home. I got a job at Sylvan Lake and stayed for the rest of the month.)
  • So I'll have to buy both One and Two--because I did like One, despite my previously-mentioned disappointments with it. But looking at this trailer, isn't the format pretty much the same? Steal the Declaration; steal the president...

Hmm.

Thursday, August 16, 2007

Putting the “Fun” in “Funeral”

I think, no matter what, there are always things to laugh at. Take the whisper of an elderly lady, commenting, “See that lady over there—the rather large one? She’ll be doing the singing.” Keep in mind that an elderly woman’s whisper isn’t necessarily a whisper at all, and the “rather large one” is rather nearby. Now, that’s funny. Or take the heavyset woman who sits on the pew next to you. You hear her labored breathing and frown about her health until you recognize that she sounds like a Shih Tzu…and that’s funny.

But better—and “delightful” more than “fun”—was leaving the funeral with both my 93-year-old friend and the six-day-old daughter of friends. I watched as her dad strapped Miss Mag in—a seatbelt, a base, a carseat, and a carseat strap. That was it. “Shouldn’t she have a helmet?” went through a layer of my brain cells.

I’m still amazed at the paradox—leaving an event that processed death, with a fresh example of life in my arms. Recognizing that the cycle continued—Mrs. J. in the front seat and Miss Mag in the back. Almost a century between them, and I was in their midst. It was a “raining in the sunshine” sort of moment—why am I witnessing this? And then it hits that I am a part of “this”—this “life” thing. Ever have those good “alive” moments—where you’re awake and aware and powerful and eager and open and able to conquer? This was one of them, and I am blessed.

Monday, August 13, 2007

Paying My Respects


An old friend died yesterday..."old" being 94. She was on my mind for the past week. Some people age for so long that you subconsciously think they'll continue to do that forever. Apparently, they don't.

I visited her at the nursing home last winter while she recuperated from a broken hip. I popped in twice at her assisted living place, promising each time to return for a game of Pente. The elusive "someday..."

And now, gone. If there's Pente in Heaven, I'll look forward to that...but I don't think there is.

"Why didn't I..." thunders through my head and echoes back in a different tone--"Why didn't I?" She was kind-hearted...but wearying and demanding. It was easier to step back than step in. Now there's a last visit to make.

I think that "paying my respects" takes on a different meaning now. I have another friend in her 90's--sweet and gracious. I don't think there's a better way to honor the dead than to honor the living.

If you'll excuse me, I've got a call to make.

addition

one good friend and his kid brother
plus
two under-inhibited dogs
plus
a handful of wailing coyotes
plus
one old truck
plus
76 meteors

equals

a darn good two and a half hours

divided by 61 degrees
with a few sneezes as the remainder.

Sunday, August 12, 2007

The Wait of Sin

My pastor preached on revenge last week, and loving one's enemies this week (Matthew 5, the "But I tell you..." series). As a part of giving up the anger, we wrote "issues" on black pieces of paper and, during the prayer/response time, were free to nail them to six crosses spread throughout the sanctuary.

I went around cleaning up after the majority of the congregation had left. With a handful of black papers in my left hand, I knelt at the foot of a cross to scoop up more. And they were all over--all these black pieces of paper representing things we harbor, things we're bitter about... Was that what He saw--a black mass of sin--and He picked up each one that was dropped at His cross?

They were suddenly distasteful, these things in my arms.

Hours later, I'm blogging, and the title comes to me. The weight of sin...no, the wait of sin. What does that mean?

How long do I wait before I hand things to Jesus? How much of a toddler am I--"No, I do it!" Perhaps I spend too much time trying to be responsible for things I am not responsible for, that I'm overwhelmed before I begin to take responsibility for those things for which I really am responsible. Maybe that's my biggest flaw.

The wait of the sin of not trusting, not rejoicing, not believing that He is faithful in His love for me.

It's a new thought.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

How does one not notice cheese? Was it a sneak attack?

Murder in a Small Town

Last night, the news carried word of a missing man, evidence of foul play, and the designation of a homicide. Tonight come the names of the suspects. A million dollar bail amount set for a kid whose sister I babysat.

The parents have such generous hearts. What does this do to them? To the kid's younger siblings? And to his child?

Not having details to fill in, my head switches back to one of my reservation students who, with a friend, killed the friend's uncle over the last can of beer in the fridge.

Too drunk? Too high? Were you thinking?

Officials are searching local lakes. I am not going kayaking.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

My New Best Friend

I love Skype. Not a big fan of the extra downloads associated (so I won't experiment with any more), but I just spent almost a half hour talking with my friend who's moved to Beijing for the year. Wow. It's so hard to hang up because voices are lifelines, but the ease of it makes me look forward to the next time we randomly see that each other is on and can reconnect.

Wow. Technology = cool.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

That's Disgusting

So--you've used your little flashlight, and it's had its most disgusting effect--but the guy keeps going. What're you going to do--wrestle him to the ground? Ewww...

A Little Heterophobia?

Just wondering when any of the voluntary parade attendees were required to march in a Hetero Pride parade...and what the backlash would have been for that.

Monday, July 30, 2007

The unfairness of my life, being blessed with a five-mile commute consisting mostly of a 65 mph two-lane road... I could have been this guy.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

tongue? check.
wounds? check.
bootstraps? check.
running into sharp corners, half-open doors, pointy-side-up knives.
a blind person would have an excuse.
i have none.
playing alice in a fairyland
pushing away the knowledge
of fingers flipping pages
until they stopped
and the story ended
on a rather unsatisfactory note
silence

answers
accuses
mortifies

redeems

Friday, July 20, 2007

longing for
autumn
when the crunch of death is
commonplace

Bummerevelation

Icharus is the only one
swooping to your rescue

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

a humid night
lightning flashes
i find myself driving
the roads that we biked

dark road
a flash of movement
and a toad dies
under my wheel

music fades
crickets resound
even in your absence
there is no silence
I wish I could pass on
the faith and enthusiasm
those around me
have

I know I fail miserably
I know I misrepresent Him
and I tear myself
away

If I could do one thing
for you
it would be to live out
the love I've been given

It's greater
than I am
than I think
than I say

Nine days
to live it out

Monday, July 02, 2007

No More Boots

Naively optimistic, I asked my parents why people were putting my grandma's snow boots into the "to go" box as we moved her out of her apartment. There was a quiet shake of the head, followed by, "She won't need them."

Well, she won't if you don't think she will. Be optimistic! Let's go take her for walks!

But they were right. My grandma shrank, shriveled, and eventually just lay on her bed. Not long after that, she passed away.

Her car was parked outside my parents' house today. I didn't recognize it until I heard my aunt's voice. Since she had done so much in caring for my grandmother, her siblings had decided that she would receive that bit of property.

The car was my grandma's; the voice was my aunt's--but then she teased my mother, and those eyes were my grandmother's. Clarity of mind, wit, twinkle. I wanted to cling to her...and I wanted to flee.

"Confliction," or "A Semi-Open Letter to the Hitchhiker"

My dear Hitchhiker,

I love how you compromise on pizza and watch "Monk" with me.
I love how you get non-icky Chinese food and share it, thereby awakening new appreciations in me.
I love how you gave me all six fortune cookies.
I love your generosity in paying for our meals.
I love your willingness to visit new places and meet new people.
I love your talent, intellect, and patience.
I love your deep respect and reverence for 80's music.
I love your outstretched arm the moment I stumble.

Please forgive me if I seem distant for a while. A previous friendship became a scalding one, and I'm rather afraid to hop into bathtubs now. I know it's not the same, which is why I'm clinging to the doorknob and not screaming my way down the hallway. Hopefully, I will still be what you need in a friend. Please forgive me if I'm not.

Sunday, July 01, 2007

Thought of the Day 06/30/07

Yes, yes, it probably is someone else's fault--so what are you going to do about it?

Thought of the Day 06/29/07

Is it fruitless to try to save the underdog if he bites?

Friday, June 29, 2007

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Once a Marine

Always a Marine...and a boxer, and an ironworker, and a husband.

Saturday, June 23, 2007

waiting on steps
in the dusk with a friend
reminiscing about friends
who are moving

"the first time
I was here
was when..."
he said

"the first time
I met ARG
was here, too"
i said

the minutes passed
the darkness grew
the years went on
through our words

and the one thing
neither of us said
"it was here
that you first held my hand"

Exploring the Vast Wilds of...the Dump

Turns out that there are interconnected ponds near our town's old dump. Who knew? (Didn't spend a lot of time there.) Dad and I checked them out Wednesday evening after he'd heard of people canoeing and fishing there. While one can conquer the span in a 25-minute paddle, it was an excellent retreat.

Again, the grassed-over dump was about fifty yards away. Grass on top does not mean icky things are sealed underneath, but if fish were jumping and the turtles I saw were only one-headed, life couldn't be too bad. One dragonfly stalked me; the attention was kind of nice.

Paddling down a channel with Dad, no civilization in sight, made it seem a bit Lewis & Clarkish...until we came to the end of the waterway and identified the bike trail and softball fields...

A good night. I even pulled out my leftover Subway and ate in my kayak...in the pond...next to the covered-up dump...though if any part of me had actually touched the water, I would have bathed myself in Purell. Visions of the disintegrating boat scene from "Dante's Peak" came to mind as I first paddled, but either plastic is stronger than metal...or...there's no volcanic activity near our dump.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Sunday, June 17, 2007

An Oddly Perfect Father's Day

The highlights:

At my parents' church this morning, I introduced myself to one of their elderly friends. I'd met his wife on numerous occasions and loved her for her openness and appreciative qualities, but this was the first I'd actually talked to him.

As she pushed his wheelchair toward the spot where the community bus would pick them up, I extended my hand. She introduced me and made the connection to my parents. He didn't talk at all, but grasped my hand. And he didn't let go.

The bus arrived, and the driver loaded on another elderly friend. Still, BE had me in his grip. His wife and I carried on a conversation, I included him through eye contact, but I was pretty much glued in that position, walking backwards as she wheeled him forward. While slightly awkward, it was delightful.

Hold my hand. If that's the highlight of your day, take as long as you like. I don't know who I remind you of or what I make you think of, but it really doesn't matter. Besides--this is the longest my hand has been held in quite some time!

The other highlight was bonding with a four-month-old at a church event this evening. I am amazed at God's provision--that on a day when, frankly, it would have been nice to have helped make someone a father, He provides an outlet for those counterpart maternal instincts. There is something so perfect about a contented baby's head against your chest.

So odd to be so deeply touched by both ends of the spectrum on the same day. So gracious of God to meet needs--maybe not in my way, but in His.

Pickled Goering?

Thanks, PX, for expanding my horizons!

Saturday, June 16, 2007

Note to Self

Dirty Jobs is not good dinnertime entertainment.
In the times
when it's just
the two of us
what do I say?

My response
is just that--
a reaction to
the good that You bring.

But what if all
were carried away
and the only thing left
were You?

Would I still bring You praise--
would my heart still rejoice
if all that I knew
were You?

What is it inside
that makes people praise
from the bowels of
hell on earth?

What part of You
do I not yet know--
the Anchor, the Hope,
the Author of my day?

Saturday, June 09, 2007

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Oh, Dear God...

That's all my heart can breathe.

I just spent an hour with His Highness, going through pictures from the Honduran missions trip he and others just returned from. There were the "These are the ancient ruins" and "This is where we stayed" photos...and then there were the children.

His Highness's eye for aesthetics was gifted as usual, and children in ratty, dirty, outdated clothing were beautiful. His Highness's enthusiasm and value for the kids gave personality and life to two-dimensional images. But God--God worked in my heart.

Just before we sat down with the album, another friend stopped in and talked about her dissatisfaction with her own Christian service.

*I bring two little girls to Sunday School and Vacation Bible School, and I get puffed up about it. I want something more. I want to do something more.*

2 Samuel 24:24 (New King James Version)
24 Then the king said to Araunah,
“No, but I will surely buy it from you for a price; nor will I offer burnt
offerings to the LORD my God with that which costs me nothing.” So David bought
the threshing floor and the oxen for fifty shekels of silver.


Pages of faces... Bright, brown eyes. Chubby cheeks framing downturned lips. Hand-me-down leather jacket in the heat of a Honduran summer. Immaculate white shirt against the deep tan of a wiggling and grinning four-year-old.

Oh, dear God, what do I do? What is the future of these children?

My heart felt like a frog climbing out of my throat. Still does, but at least it's more socially acceptable to let the tears flow now that I'm alone. What do I do?

His Highness mentioned wanting to see if one or more of "his" kids needed sponsorship. That reminded me that I already have a child through World Vision--a little 2nd grader in Colombia. Yes, my monthly payment of $30 goes in...but what's my investment? A dollar a day? Not enough to buy a threshing floor.

Three goals (the setting and following-through of which is also a new venture for me):
  • When my next World Vision statement asks if I'd like to sponsor another child, say yes. $2 a day.
  • Invest in the life of "my" child(ren) by sending letters and pictures. Being a pen-pal with a 2nd grader from a different language isn't easy--more of a challenge than the financial aspect.
  • Tell you. I've always been a cynic toward child sponsorship organizations, but something cracked a year and a half ago at a Women of Faith conference. I knew it was time, and I knew that World Vision was the group to trust. I haven't regretted it. My only frustration was looking through all the faces and choosing only one. That's still a struggle, but it's remedied the way so many things are--by passing it along. Think about it, pray on it, and if you're convicted, check out the link.

Extra credit: buy a goat. 75 bucks for food, fertilizer and fun!

Sunday, June 03, 2007

Faith, Hope & Love

Odd; I just realized I've been wrestling with all of these recently.

Faith and hope are what came to mind as I read this article. Love is probably what made them possible. Perhaps that's why it's greatest?
Oh, God, my heart hurts.
Can You fix it?

Of course I can.

Thursday, May 31, 2007

A Bit of Self-Righteous Posturing

Last weekend, I was in a skit about modern-day Pharisees. The sermon followed, with the pastor detailing the fine points about the ten commandments. (For example, "It's nice that you didn't kill someone...but if you were angry with that person, you've committed the same sin that led others to murder.")

That was a bit humbling. Alrightey, a lot of humbling was done. And it's still effective...so I'm not sure how to share the next part.

I'm sure you've read about the TB guy--the one who got on planes, knowing he had an extremely drug-resistant variety of the disease. Today's news ID's him and gives a bit more background. His father-in-law works for the CDC and gave him "fatherly" advice against traveling. So maybe the poor, ill man didn't realize how serious his disease was.

Then I read that he knew the US airports had restrictions against him, so he flew into Canada and drove across the border. He what? I know my students aren't being truthful with me when they make excuses about things I haven't yet asked about. TB Man altered his travel plans as an excuse.

All I can think is "Jerk! You sat on an international flight and exhaled into the recycled air system that how many other people were breathing in? And you knew you were sick?"

New twist on my thinking patterns: how do I deal with something like this? Is it "righteous indignation?" Or am I sitting in judgment?

And then the reminder comes: how much have I prayed about it? Am I mad at the idiot, or am I concerned for the people he exposed? Am I willing to pray for them, or would I rather fume? There lies my answer, and a lighter spirit.

Saturday, May 26, 2007

More Definitions

Providence is students clustering around your desk and engaging in face-to-face conversation, on a day when you really needed to not be invisible.

Tears are precipitation from your heart when you get a friend's message that she really cares.

Reward is the wind at your back, blowing you toward the beach after you've paddled against the waves.

Perfection is praying that God would show you Himself, then finding wild roses growing above highly artistic, dry tree roots in a cove. There is beauty. There is strength. They are not hidden. They are there.

Worry is hearing the call of nature above the wind, and realizing you've kayaked farther from the landing than you thought you had.

Panic is noting that the wind feels different against your left arm than your right...and, upon looking, remembering that you don't have dark arm hair...and that, regardless, your arm hair certainly did not have a spider growing from it when last you looked.

Lucidity and gratitude are what follow your frantic yelping and flailing as you recall that balance is, indeed, important on the high seas.

Definitions are an oddly cathartic way of blogging.

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Playing Marco Polo by Myself

How do you define lonely?

Lonely is sitting at a table with 11 friends, and not being able to explain to them why you ditched your church and visited another one. (The sermon title "Life's Problems: Loneliness" was on the marquee.)

Lonely is telling five friends that your only reason for going to a specific movie is to be social...and then ending up in the one seat left--next to a friend's prepubescent brother.

Lonely is hearing a friend ask how you're doing...and then hearing the "multitasking pause" between your comment and their response.

"I am never less alone than when I am alone." --James Howell
All I want to do is put on my "hooker clothes," to use a concept from Pretty Woman. After Stuckey's crude advances toward Vivian, she lashes out at Edward. *If you were going to treat me like a hooker, why didn't you let me wear my own clothes? Then, I know how to deal with people like that." (Roughly translated.)

Hooker clothes. Isolate myself. Can't be disappointed in any but myself if there's no one else around. (A bit of the Jack Sparrow brogue is coming off my tongue as I write this. It's rather amusing in my head.)

The part of that loneliness sermon that's been running through my mind for a few days is the first point under "Remedies for Loneliness." Friends.

How. How does this work? People are people--human and fallible. How can we be counted on for cheer? And if I'm to be getting my joy from God, what is the importance of people? And if I'm not getting joy from God, then what's the matter with me?

Frustration is not finding a gracious way to say, "Did anyone notice I left my seat an hour into a three hour movie, and never came back?" Lonely is having no one to help you figure it out.

Friday, May 18, 2007

In a plea for identity
I return my Savior's probe to Him:
Who do You say I am?
The Quiet Voice
that comes quicker than my thoughts
rejoins,
Who do you say I am?

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Odd

I have oodles of pictures stored on my laptop, and, as with things in the house, I'm learning to get rid of some. Time this evening was spent cropping, shrinking and deleting. It was good. How many slightly different poses of the same person does one need? PICK ONE! And keep it. Dash the rest.

A week ago, my father was standing outside as he awaited an upcoming meeting. I flitted about with my digicam, and his expressions were a mix of business (to go with his attire) and paternal patience.

Cropping those pictures this evening, I found myself thinking, "What would they want for an obituary pic? Better not shrink that one too much..."

When I finally realized my thoughts, I quickly closed the photo editing program.

What?

My dad's 65, a bit pudgy but trimming down in his retirement years, and has a few unidentifiable lesions on his arms. Hopefully, he's got a number of good years left in him. I'd like him to meet my husband and children (of course, I'd like to meet them, too).

When he goes kayaking alone, I tell him to be careful. He shrugs and smiles. We've had this conversation before. He doesn't want a hospital death, like he watched his mother endure. If he has a heart attack in his kayak, I'm sure he'll be happiest going that way.

Personally, I'd like the chance to say goodbye. However, I see merit in his mindset. To just be gone; to go while the going is good...

Saturday, May 12, 2007

A Little Yak, a Little Sun, and a Little Plastic Bag for My DigiCam

They're not fantastic quality, but I am amazed that they turned out as they did. When you consider that I was bobbing along in the waves and the geese, in particular, were defying gravity...wow... My camera rocks, my parents are wonderful for purchasing it for me, and God has a fantastic eye for design! It was a glorious day.